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It is not my job to be in a certain way in order to make someone else happy. It makes total sense to care for the relationships you cherish, but it is only logical to be your truth relative to them. Otherwise they take on meanings that are false. That is you, lying to yourself about what the relationship means. What would be the point of continuing a relationship that did not emphasize your truth? Are you not a part of that? If you act falsely, if you hide from yourself, what type of relationship are you building? What are you saying about your life? How are you choosing to relate to life? What do you believe you need that you cannot be for yourself?
Life does not need to align itself to a notion of 'good' in order for me to be happy right now. I am always in control of how I choose to experience any given moment. Understandably, some life situations are not preferable. By all standards of judgement, they can be labeled as terrible. But the second you label the moment, you give some of your power away. You place yourself at the mercy of life, in a way. By telling yourself a life situation is 'bad' you set the course of how you choose to behave relative to it. You decide the meaning of it. Be careful as to how you judge your life situations. Be aware of the meaning you assign to them. What are you telling yourself by calling a life situation 'bad?' Is life happening TO you? Are you at the mercy of life? Or are you allowed to smile at life. Are you allowed to live without fear? How real is fear? The moment you laugh in its face, it disappears. The moment you no longer need life to be in a certain way, you set yourself free. Free from need.
Others do not need to behave in a certain way in order for me to love: life, them or myself. It is only my job to create my joy. I don't control other people. Ever. I control myself relative to them. Always.
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Love what you had to say!! It reinforces my daily mantras. One of which is - Don't let anyone steal my joy. Another is by Oscar Wilde - Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken. And a third - Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has. Margaret Mead. I could go on but you get the idea. Thanks for your thoughts of the day.
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: -MorticiaAddams
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Morti, you are some kind of awesome. 💙
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: unity1234
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06 abr. 24 por el miembro: AncientHippie
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Thanks, AC... I am working through some long-standing issues with my mom... wish I was going through it with her; but it is necessary right now that I forge my own path... we are friends, all is well... we just can't be as close as I'd prefer; we never have been. Maybe that will change later on. 💙
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: unity1234
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Unity, that last paragraph sums up the same view I have taken for decades now. I arrived at it soon (sadly) after I was married. I did not have the experience in life and being in the control of a malignant narcissist to recognize what I was getting into. I decided to be happy, keep believing in the eventual dispensation of true, unbiased merciful Justice...find joy in small things as well as the occasional mind-blowing big ones.
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: GopherIt2
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EXCELLENT, Unity. There are needs the body and soul has, then there is being needy. I never want to be needy. When I was younger I thought my happiness depended on how others felt about me, how my husband treated me, etc. After enough disappointment, I started being there for myself. Now I create my own happiness and well being. Pure freedom. You are a wise old soul Unity. <3<3
Gopher I relate. <3
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: Windy Day
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A friend sent me a book recommendation a couple weeks ago. “Can’t we talk about something more pleasant?” Roz Chast. It’s about dealing with her relationship with her aging parents, especially those with complicated relationships. Wanna guess what’s going on in both our lives? 🤪 Disclaimer, i haven’t read it yet because I’m still in the denial phase.
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: Katsolo
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GopherIt2 💙 It has been my experience, so far, that those of us who have had the courage to look right at their own darkness; in the way of dark feelings, past behavior, regret, guilt, what have you, those folks who have accepted that aspect of themselves, have experienced a humbling inner peace unlike any other. It is not easy to look at my darkness and love it, but I do. And that is how I feel compassion where I used to feel victimized. I am only the person I am now because of the relationship I have had with all of life. And for that, I am grateful.
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: unity1234
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WindyD, so true that no one can take from you the love you give yourself. You get me, I know. 💙
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: unity1234
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Katsolo, I 💙 a book recommendation! I will slap that one right up onto Goodreads.
I am just gonna have to love Mom however she is. I am happy with that even though it is not what I'd prefer. I do grow because of her. I just wanted to take her with me. I see now, she must walk her path. For me to resist it only widens the divide. I'd rather love her the way she is than lose her all together. I will be my truth relative to her and she may resent me for it; but any other path leads to me resenting her. Thanks for meeting me here. Ur so chill. Love that about you.
06 abr. 24 por el miembro: unity1234
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I admire your attitude with your mother!
07 abr. 24 por el miembro: Snowwhite100
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Snowwhite100, thanks so much for being here with me.💙
07 abr. 24 por el miembro: unity1234
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